I really want to blog, regularly. It’s true. – I don’t really know why I keep consistently putting it off. Why would I ever trust myself when I tell myself I want to blog and then I don’t? As humans we do this to ourselves all the time. There are a number of places in my life that I tell myself I want to do something and that it’s really important to me, but then I don’t. I don’t honor the commitments I make to myself. It also makes me question whether or not I can truly be there for others if I can’t often be there for myself- in the smallest of ways. The blog is a shining example of this for me. I see it on my calendar every day as an action item. And it gets overlooked. Meanwhile, I get a lot of other things done but there is something nagging at me that makes me feel unsatisfied and upset with myself.
At times we need to evaluate our current reality- We have to start by honoring the promises we make to ourselves. That begins for me with blogging regularly. Not blogging so that people can read what I have to say – but because it’s important for me to put my words out there in the world so that I can live by them. So that I can see what I value on paper, what’s important to me, what I like, and who I am. Seeing my thoughts reflected in writing enables me to better recognize where I am -and map out where I want to go. So without making myself wrong for not keeping these commitments, I am grateful that they have surfaced enough for me to realize how I can move beyond the obstacles.
A few weeks ago I joined a group of 7 other extaordinary women entrepreneurs at a retreat at a beautiful hotel in Westlake CA. We worked on our businesses and gained clarity about what we wanted to create in the upcoming year. In addition to lots of movement and shifts I recognize 6 personal takeaways that have stuck with me from the time we spent together. These are things I have to re-learn all the time but they are important.
1. Don’t compare yourself to those around you. This goes for biz and life. Period.
2. Stay out of judging people and sizing people up with first impressions. Every time I slip and do this, I then learn the story and realize why I was wrong to do this.
3. Everyone has a story and everyone is dealing with something. It may be different than your something but it is just as important.
4. Unplugging from real life is where the creativity and magic can happen.
5. Women together are a powerful force and connecting with like minded women keeps you moving in the direction you want to go and you can stay inspired!
6. We all need a tribe. Who’s yours?
Lately I have been thinking about this quote by Jim Rohn: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” I know how important it is for me to spend time with people who help me move into my dreams and want to talk about what is possible as opposed to what is not. Spring cleaning (on all levels) offers us an opportunity to take inventory of who is around us and what we may be feeling because of their influence in our life. I encourage you to surround yourself with people who make you laugh, support you and help you focus on the good.